How unpleasant is it to work beside someone who pretends to get a long with you, but ultimately is sending a deep green cloud drifting your way?
I am not unfamiliar with that feeling of someone close by making things difficult because of envy. I just didn’t realize it at the time. “Who would be envious of ME?! Good grief!” When those same people became happier, and even joyful, when I was going through a rough period, I knew this was NOT normal! Even worse, when gestures of sabotage were delivered with the goal of spoiling a good moment occurred, it was time to zoom away.
A challenge if you are stuck working with someone of this nature!
Years later, I think, what if we had “buffooned” or played together in some boisterous way? Would that have improved our “togetherness” and ultimately our working relationship?
Do you have experiences of this nature? How were they solved?
The following article got me pondering the benefits of playing with our workmates!
Envy Begets Sabotage in a Disconnected Workplace: Study
By Evelyn So, Epoch Times:
Managers take note! Envious employees are more likely to engage in workplace sabotage if they have low social identification with their co-workers, new research from North America suggests.
“We often hear that people who feel envious of their colleagues try to bring them down by spreading negative rumors, withholding useful information, or secretly sabotaging their work,” study co-author Karl Aquino of the University of British Columbia said in a press release.
“Play is a simple and powerful catalyst for successful and joyful living.
When we play, we open our heart and expand our creative mind to new possibilities. We are more curious and engage with life more fully in the moment. We live with less attachment to ideas, agendas or the perceived “right way” of doing things. We connect to a world beyond our limited self and allow the mystery of life and all its potential to unfold more easily and naturally.
In turn, we become more flexible and adaptable with life’s unpredictable cycles, find creative solutions in unconventional ways and take risks to try new ideas. With levity, life becomes so much more productive and enjoyable!”
I had the wonderful opportunity to meet and work with Vince for a Living Vision Retreat, where we shared the stage and lead a group of 60 into their bouffons. I would work with Vince again in a heartbeat! (and I can hear his voice gently scolding me and correcting my vocabulary, “play with Vince again… play, Trilby”. He’s right!
And don’t forget to PLAY!